I was recently visiting with a man who, due to health reasons, had to sell his house and move to another state. He told me that he lost his “home.” He had lost his past.
He’s living with his son, daughter-in-law and two granddaughters now.
I kept my eyes on him as he sat and watched some home movies with them. He started to talk about the times they had shared, and the things he hopes for their future—together.
I understand his sense of loss. But I also believe that he is realizing that the things that are most important in his life are relationships. He hasn’t lost those. In fact, he may be starting a new and very important chapter.
It’s easy for any of us to start thinking about the stuff that we’ve collected, and the rhythm of our ‘normal’ day as the meaningful part of our life. But it doesn’t take much for us to pull back that veil and see the truth—that the only thing that has real meaning in our lives is our relationship with our God, and the people that surround us.
If you’ve read this far into this blog, you are probably wondering: “What does this have to do with Family Experience?” Everything. Most of the questions we get regarding Family Experience are about lights, sound, props, sets—stuff. They are important questions. They should be asked.
As we go into a very busy season for FX, let’s not forget the most important questions. Relationship questions. Some of the questions we have to ask, and answer may sound like this—
Are we creating an environment where new families want to participate?
Are we collecting stories about how families are experiencing life change?
Do our singers, dancers, and actors understand they are forming relationships with the kids and parents in the audience?
Do families leave our environment knowing they have something to “go and do” in their homes and communities?
If you can answer “Yes” to these questions, the other questions are much easier to answer.
And who knows? Maybe a grandfather will walk into your environment thinking about what he has lost, and leave remembering what he can never lose.